Wouldn’t it be great if Valentines Day could be about demonstrating that we love and care about people? Wouldn’t it be great if people would do random acts of kindness? Ideally it should be an others centered day, unfortunately it mainly represents romantic love. This is the kind of love the world wants to glorify.This can be a difficult day for single people because it glorifies the holiday as a day for couples and if you don’t have a significant other you can feel left out.
If we can keep our focus on reaching out to others in the days leading up to the holiday we will see that true love involves loving others without any expectation of receiving anything back. This is called Agape love, and it is the kind of love that God has for us. God’s love is a sacrificial love. John 3:16 says for God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
There are five different words in the Greek language for the meaning of love. I am only going to give the definition for three of them. In the English language we only have one word for love and it can be used to describe so many different feelings. We can love our spouse and our children and we can also love pizza and ice cream or anything in between.
*The Greek word for sexual or passionate love is Eros and this is really the reason that Valentines Day is celebrated. This is the worldly way to look at love. It is solely based on feelings and sexual desire for one another. Agape love is the word that refers to the love that God has for us and it is the very nature of God. Agape love is known for what it does, and it isn’t based on feelings. The third word for love is Phileo and it means “to have a special interest in someone or something.” It also is based on emotion, which could be a love for something or for a special friend.
True love isn’t based on feelings. We all know that feelings can deceive us. It Isn’t based on a response that we receive from another or on anything we can get from someone. True love is really based on a decision of the heart which still involves our emotions. These emotions can be true if they are God driven. True love is an exercise of our will and a deliberate choice. Can we love when a relationship gets tough? Can we love when we have to give more of ourselves than the other person? Can we love when we are rejected by another? True love is sacrificial. The only way we can have that kind of love is if we have a relationship with Jesus Christ. He is the only One who can give us that kind of love in our hearts for others. 1 John 4:7 says beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.